Why NLP is a great technology for improving your communication skills
Some of the people that the founders of NLP modelled when they created this field were legendary psychotherapists who had pioneered their own psychological approach (taught in universities) in helping people to change.
NLP has extracted the key elements contributing to their success and based on those, today, NLP helps us improve our communication skills by teaching us how to…
These people were trained in the science of communication & influence, and they were using purely conversational skills in their work.
• ask result-producing questions.
• identify the hidden meaning behind people’s speech patterns.
• make suggestions in a way that minimises resistance and promotes agreement.
• build rapport with people.
• observe, interpret and make use of people’s non-verbal communication.
• persuade – with a structure, and much more.
Communication skills are obviously crucial to coaching, as well as self-mastery.
The questions we ask ourselves often dramatically change the way we look at problems and find solutions.
Why we need coaching skills today and what’s the relation between coaching and NLP
Coaching is designed to help people discover and fully utilise their resources in order to achieve their outcomes and gain independence from us by raising their level of personal effectiveness.
The contribution of NLP to coaching has a worldwide reputation. Today, coaching is no longer a supplementary skill, but a core skill for all professionals, and an essential life skill for anyone who wants to help others.
Coaches who use NLP have an edge over other coaches because, as opposed to traditional coaching -revolving primarily around talking -NLP adds the “experiential” dimension, involving…
Coaches who use NLP have an edge over other coaches because, as opposed to traditional coaching -revolving primarily around talking -NLP adds the “experiential” dimension, involving…
• moving around the room.
• adjusting breathing, eye movement, posture, gesture and stance.
• visualising and mentally rehearsing important performances;
• practicing bringing up desired emotional states, and many more.
• adjusting breathing, eye movement, posture, gesture and stance.
• visualising and mentally rehearsing important performances;
• practicing bringing up desired emotional states, and many more.
These are all important when dealing with change because unless our body knows how to carry out the ideas in our heads, talking alone doesn’t produce behavioural change. In our training, we emphasise on the alignment of our head, heart and body intelligences and NLP provides the language, feelings and actions upon which we can act. There are numerous powerful NLP frameworks, tools and techniques that are especially relevant to coaching.
Coaching provides cognitive, emotional and behavioural frameworks for people to communicate more strategically. The same frameworks also help people to gain more self-awareness and raise their confidence to find solutions on their own.
Why self-mastery is important and what is its connection with NLP?
Self mastery is vital to coaching and communication; being self-aware, open, flexible, compassionate and resourceful – which are the fruits of self-mastery – enables us to communicate and coach more powerfully.
Self mastery is vital to coaching and communication; being self-aware, open, flexible, compassionate and resourceful – which are the fruits of self-mastery – enables us to communicate and coach more powerfully.
Why do people take personal development courses? Well, because of that on-going desire to consciously bring out the best in themselves, through a methodology and practice.
In an organisational context personal development is called
“personal effectiveness” and on an individual level - “self mastery”.
We emphasise authenticity in our personal development courses. Success is not just focused on attaining the eventual results, but more so on how much we’ve embodied the learning in our daily lives. The edge that you get with NLP is that it teaches you how to examine the…
• neurophysiology,
• cognitive patterns,
• belief and value structures, as well as
• the internal and external language patterns of successful people, all of which are largely invisible to the untrained eyes and ears of most.
• cognitive patterns,
• belief and value structures, as well as
• the internal and external language patterns of successful people, all of which are largely invisible to the untrained eyes and ears of most.
After 4 decades of modeling successful people in different fields, NLP has a vast range of techniques to offer in the realm of personal development.
The intimate connection between the 3 highest-leveraging skills for success – Communication, Coaching & Self-mastery
Our experience tells us that all the problems we face in life are connected with these 3 core skills that are indispensable to each other; increasing expertise in one of these skills has immeasurable impact on the other two. In other words, one cannot really gain mastery in any one of them without developing the other two. And we use all 3 skills on a daily basis: we constantly need to communicate our ideas and listen to others, to help people whose well-being affects us, and we need to be at a healthy level of mental and emotional functioning to deal with all our responsibilities.
Our experience tells us that all the problems we face in life are connected with these 3 core skills that are indispensable to each other; increasing expertise in one of these skills has immeasurable impact on the other two. In other words, one cannot really gain mastery in any one of them without developing the other two. And we use all 3 skills on a daily basis: we constantly need to communicate our ideas and listen to others, to help people whose well-being affects us, and we need to be at a healthy level of mental and emotional functioning to deal with all our responsibilities.
Self-mastery is a vital part of coaching and it influences our ability to communicate effectively.
We can’t coach others well when we’re not in control of our own emotions, or unaware of our own biased reactions. And what we want to convey to others is not credible when we don’t have congruence between our intention, state and behaviour.
We can’t coach others well when we’re not in control of our own emotions, or unaware of our own biased reactions. And what we want to convey to others is not credible when we don’t have congruence between our intention, state and behaviour.
Our ability to communicate effectively is supported by our skills to coach others and greatly influenced by our ability to be clear of our intentions and outcomes.
We can’t speak with impact when we’re not clear of our purpose. Our efforts to “talk sense” into others is greatly enhanced when we’re able to use powerful coaching techniques to help them sort out their assumptions, beliefs and fears.
We can’t speak with impact when we’re not clear of our purpose. Our efforts to “talk sense” into others is greatly enhanced when we’re able to use powerful coaching techniques to help them sort out their assumptions, beliefs and fears.
Our effectiveness in coaching is dependent on our ability to maintain an empowering mindset and to have good interpersonal communication skills.
Often, breakthroughs in coaching come from analysing the linguistic presuppositions of clients and asking resource-probing questions. Helping people find answers for themselves can be very difficult, and coaches who embody positive values can rely on those to guide their clients through seemingly hopeless situations.
Often, breakthroughs in coaching come from analysing the linguistic presuppositions of clients and asking resource-probing questions. Helping people find answers for themselves can be very difficult, and coaches who embody positive values can rely on those to guide their clients through seemingly hopeless situations.
In a rapidly changing and competitive world, we need to not get lost in the mountain of details that we’re bombarded with everyday, but instead, to stay focused on the knowledge and skills that truly matter. And most people will agree that these are…
• Self confidence
• Actively working on strengths
& weaknesses
• Communicating effectively
• Developing good relationships
• Helping others help themselves
• Raising one’s team’s performance
• Actively working on strengths
& weaknesses
• Communicating effectively
• Developing good relationships
• Helping others help themselves
• Raising one’s team’s performance
Below are some of the skills that people gain from our NLP programmes, skills that have helped them position themselves as authorities in their respective fields.
Communication
• build rapport with difficult people by learning how to “speak their language”
• understand how the brain works and what the different styles of thinking are – for greater flexibility in communication.
• sharpen your senses with Sensory Acuity Drills so you don’t miss out important information in your interactions.
• have richer conversations with Conversational Frames and the C.U.R.E. Communication Model – 2 frameworks unique to Mind Transformations.
Self-mastery
• create resilient relationships by learning the art of pacing & leading and using the insightful framework of Perceptual Positions.
• tap into your body & emotional intelligences for faster decision making and managing your stress better.
• be in control of your mind, overcome negative emotions and change bad habits with processes like Anchoring, Swish or New Behaviour Generator.
• gain greater self-confidence and self-esteem by internalising NLP Presuppositions.
Coaching
• work effectively with your team; motivate & bring out the best in others
• ask intelligent questions to lead conversations & uncover the hidden meaning behind people’s words.
• tap into not only one, but four forms of intelligence (mental, emotional, physical and spiritual intelligence) to help your team and clients get results faster and be more congruent.
• help people implement a new daily routine that works for rather than against them – this is a topic in which we’re experts and you’ll see its importance if you want to help your clients achieve their goals with less effort.